Family Violence Victim Advocacy

Long deployments, frequent moves, and the demands of mission readiness impose many stresses on military families, which sometimes lead to dating, marital and/or parent-child conflict. Concern for the welfare of Navy families and the effects of family violence on military performance prompted the establishment of the Family Advocacy Program.

Fleet & Family Support Centers offer prevention, identification, treatment and follow-up regarding incidents of Family Violence. All efforts are geared towards victim safety and protection, and offender accountability, education and treatment. Our goal is to help you and your family, so please do not hesitate to ask questions and receive support for you as an individual or as a family.

Keep in mind that as you use a computer, it could be monitored. Safe computers can be found at the Liberty Center, Fleet and Family Support Center, local library, shelter, work or computer technology center. Always use safe computers when researching things such as travel plans, housing options, legal issues and safety plans.  Remember - For internet safety, it is wise to keep your passwords private and safe from other parties.  

Domestic Violence

What is domestic violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone.

Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. Domestic violence occurs in both opposite-sex and same-sex relationships and can happen to intimate partners who are married, living together, or dating.

Physical Abuse

Hitting, slapping, shoving, grabbing, pinching, biting, and hair pulling are types of physical abuse. Physical abuse also includes denying a partner medical care or forcing alcohol and/or drug use upon him or her.

You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever...

  • Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
  • Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
  • Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
  • Scared you by driving recklessly.
  • Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
  • Forced you to leave your home.
  • Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
  • Prevented you from calling the police or seeking medical attention.
  • Hurt your children.
  • Used physical force in sexual situations.

Sexual Abuse

Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact or behavior without consent is sexual abuse. Sexual abuse includes, but is certainly not limited to, marital rape, attacks on sexual parts of the body, forcing sex after physical violence has occurred, or treating one in a sexually demeaning manner.

Emotional Abuse

Undermining an individual's sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem is abusive. This may include, but is not limited to constant criticism, diminishing one's abilities, name-calling, or damaging one's relationship with his or her children.

You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner...

  • Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you.
  • Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive.
  • Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
  • Monitors where you go, who you call, and who you spend time with.
  • Controls finances or refuses to share money.
  • Punishes you by withholding affection.
  • Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets.

Economic Abuse

Making or attempting to make an individual financially dependent by maintaining total control over financial resources, withholding one's access to money, or forbidding one's attendance at school or employment.

Psychological Abuse

Causing fear by intimidation; threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends; destruction of pets and property; and forcing isolation from family, friends, or school and/or work are all examples of psychological abuse.

Domestic violence not only affects those who are abused, but also has a substantial effect on family members, friends, co-workers, other witnesses, and the community at large. Children who grow up witnessing domestic violence are among those seriously affected by this crime. Frequent exposure to violence in the home not only predisposes children to numerous social and physical problems, but also teaches them that violence is a normal way of life, therefore, increasing their risk of becoming society's next generation of victims and abusers.

Victim Resources

Victims of domestic violence may feel confused, trapped, helpless and guilty.  They may need some support to help them through this very difficult time. The Fleet and Family Support Center has Domestic Abuse Victim Advocates who provide victims with information and support to ensure their safety and their family's safety. The victim advocate provides victims with their rights, education on the domestic violence cycle, victim empowerment, how to heal after the trauma, and how to help children who have witnessed and/or experienced abuse.
 
The victim advocate can help with...
 

SAFETY PLANNING

A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan that includes ways to remain safe while in a relationship, planning to leave, or after you've left. Safety planning involves how to cope with emotions, tell friends and family about the abuse, take legal action and more.
 
A good safety plan will have all of the vital information you need, will be tailored to your unique situation, and will help walk you through different situations you may face.
 
Although some of the things that you outline in your safety plan may seem obvious, it's important to remember that in moments of crisis your brain doesn't function the same way as when you are calm. When adrenaline is pumping through your veins, it can be hard to think clearly or make logical decisions about your safety. Having a safety plan laid out in advance can help you to protect yourself and your children in those stressful moments.
 

PROTECTION ORDERS

At times, a victim may need additional legal help to stay safe. The Family Advocacy Program Victim Advocate (FAP VA) can help a victim apply for a civil protection order through the courts, and be present with a victim in court if wanted or needed. A Protection Order is granted by a judge and orders the person hurting you (defendant) to stay away. The defendant should not enter your home or approach you at your place of work or school. If the defendant violates the protection order, a new criminal charge could be filed and the defendant could be arrested again.
 
Although the Judge may grant the Protection Order, it does not guarantee your safety. It is important for you to be very careful and take steps to ensure your safety as much as possible. Working with a Domestic Abuse Victim Advocate can be helpful to see if a protection order is right for you.
 
The United States Military Justice System has its own version of a protection order, more commonly referred to as a "Military Protective Order (MPO)," but which are officially "conditions on liberty." Unlike the civilian justice system which requires a judge to grant a protective order, in the military the commanding officer or his designee can issue a Military Protective Order to his/her service member to keep parties separated to prevent any further escalation of domestic abuse. Typically, MPOs last for 10 days to allow time to diffuse the situation between the parties, unless an extension occurs on the MPO.
 

REPORTING OPTIONS

As a victim of domestic abuse, you have some options for reporting the abuse...
 
Restricted Reporting
 
This process allows adult victims of domestic abuse, who are eligible to receive military medical treatment, the option of reporting an incident to specific medical providers or Fleet & Family Support staff without initiating an investigative process or notifying the victim’s or offender’s commander.
 
A victim of domestic violence can make a restricted report to a Family Advocacy Program Victim Advocate (FAP VA), the victim advocate’s supervisor, and any credentialed health care professionals at the Military Treatment Facility or the Fleet & Family Support Center. If the victim discloses to someone other than the specified individuals, command or law enforcement may be notified and an investigation may be initiated. The report then becomes unrestricted. Service members are required to report any incident of domestic violence to the command.
 
There are both benefits and limitations to restricted reporting.
 
Benefits of Restricted Reporting:
 
•  You may access medical treatment, advocacy, and counseling services.
•  You have space and time to consider your options for safety and what you want to happen.
•  You have control over the release and management of your personal information.
•  Increased trust in the system since you control when and to whom information is shared.
 
Limitations of Restricted Reporting:
 
•  The offender is not held accountable and may continue to be abusive.
•  The victim cannot obtain a Military Protective Order.
•  The offender may continue to have contact with the victim.
•  Evidence from a crime scene could be lost and may impede an investigation if the victim chooses to unrestricted the report in the future.
•  There are some limitations to restricted reporting, based on specific imminent risk. Contact the Fleet & Family Support Center FAP VA to find out more about the guidelines for reporting domestic violence and discuss the options available.
 
Unrestricted Reporting
 
Victims of domestic abuse who want to pursue an official command or criminal investigation of an incident should use the unrestricted reporting process, including chain of command, the Family Advocacy Program (FAP) or law enforcement. Upon notification of a domestic abuse incident, the FAP VA services and FAP clinical services will be offered to the victim. Additionally, at the victim’s request, a health care provider, in coordination with the criminal investigators, may conduct a forensic medical examination if appropriate.
 
Benefits of unrestricted reporting:
 
Medical treatment, advocacy and counseling services
The widest range of rights and protections
Command support, including separation from the offender
Full investigation
 
Limitations of unrestricted reporting:
 
The victim cannot change to restricted reporting.
The investigative process may be intrusive.
Information about the domestic abuse incident will be in the public domain.
The investigation and court proceedings might be lengthy.
 

RESOURCES

If you are a victim of domestic abuse your first step toward help is to tell someone. Speak with a counselor or victim advocate at the Fleet and family Support Center or a healthcare provider at a medical treatment facility about your reporting options.
 
Help is available!
 
Here are some military and civilian resources to assist you:
 
If you are in danger and need help call 911
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-3224 or www.ndvh.org
Military OneSource: 1-800-342-9647 or www.militaryonesource.mil
Chaplain (Bangor): 360-396-6005
Chaplain (Bremerton): 360-476-2183
Naval Base Kitsap Base Security: 360-396-4444/476-3333
Fleet & Family Support Center: 1-866-854-0638
Domestic Violence ALIVE Shelter: 1-800-222-1222
Washington State National Hotline: 1-800-562-6025

Safety Planning

If you are in immediate danger and can safely GET OUT OF THE HOUSE, Call 911.  If it’s not safe to exit or talk, place your phone so the dispatcher can hear what is happening.
 

CREATING YOUR OWN SAFETY PLAN

A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan that includes ways to remain safe while in a relationship, planning to leave, or after a relationship separation. Safety planning involves how to cope with emotions, tell friends and family about the abuse, take legal action and more.  
 
A good safety plan will have all of the vital information you need, will be tailored to your unique situation, and will help walk you through different situations you may face.
 
Although some of the things that you outline in your safety plan may seem obvious, it's important to remember that in moments of crisis your brain doesn't function the same way as when you are calm. When adrenaline is pumping through your veins, it can be hard to think clearly or make logical decisions about your safety. Having a safety plan laid out in advance can help you to protect yourself and your children in those stressful moments.
 
[Click HERE for a short video on SAFETY PLANNING TIPS.]
 
 
In moments of distress, the following questions may be helpful to help you prioritize your immediate needs and responses.  All safety-planning suggestions will need to be individualized and personalized for your specific situation. 

What is my current status?

What are my housing options?

Do I have access to transportation?

Do I need access to medical care?

What is my financial situation?

Do I need a Safety Planning Template?


 
CURRENT STATUS / LOCATIONS - Am I safe right now? Where is the abuser?

•  At Home—assess imminent risk of harm and take action accordingly. Do I need to consider 911, Law Enforcement/Base Security, YWCA shelter support to avoid an abusive situation?

•  Out of home Away from me (and my children/pets)—consider options:

  1. Can my abuser access my home?
  2. Do I have somewhere else I can go?

 

HOUSINGDo I feel safe in my home? If not, I can consider the following ideas:
Safety while staying in a relationship:

•  Keep using strategies that deescalate conflicts and keep myself and my children safe.

•  If I feel triggered, I can take some time for self-care – maybe a time out, walk outside, or cool down period.

•  Try to keep a charged phone available and accessible at all times.

•  Practice what to do in case I need to evacuate the area quickly.

If my abuser is not currently living in same location, identify changes that may increase safety:
•  Secure sliding glass doors and all ground level windows.
•  Update/change garage door codes or other entryways.
•  Is there a way to secure or remove weapons in the home?
•  Consider notifying a neighbor about current risks/concerns.
Do I have local family or friends I could stay with temporarily?
Do I have the means to stay in a hotel or Navy Gateway Inn temporarily?

Contact the local Domestic Violence Hotline to determine eligibility for emergency shelter.  

•  Kitsap County – call the local YWCA at 800-500-5513 or 360-479-0522
•  Island County – call Citizens Against Domestic and Sexual Abuse (CADA) at 800-215-5669 or 360-675-2232
•  Everett Area – call the local YWCA at 206-461-4882
Consider notifying command via a command ombudsman* - seek a Military Protection Order (MPO) …?
 
* IMPORTANT - A victim of domestic violence can make a restricted report to a Family Advocacy Program Victim Advocate (FAP VA), the victim advocate’s supervisor, and any credentialed health care professionals at the Military Treatment Facility or the Fleet & Family Support Center. If the victim discloses to someone other than the specified individuals, command or law enforcement will be notified and an investigation will be initiated. A command ombudsman is NOT allowed to accept restricted reports of domestic violence or sexual assault.  

 
TRANSPORTATIONdo I have access to transportation?
Do I have local family or friends who could temporarily assist with transportation to appointments? to the grocery store, etc?

 

Do I have the means to pay for public transportation?  Uber/Lyft/public bus system?  

 

For special accommodations for people with disabilities contact your local transportation department and inquire into their application process.
•  Kitsap County – contact Kitsap Transit ACCESS bus at 360-373-2877
•  Island County – contact Paratransit at 800-240-8747 (toll free)
•  Everett Area - contact Everett Para Transit at 425-257-8801 

 
MEDICALdo I have access to medical care?  Am I pregnant?
Do I have my military ID card? Sponsor’s ID #?

 

Look up and store phone numbers for medical appointments in cell phone.
•  Tricare 1-877-988-9378 – call for eligibility and appointments.  
•  A Nurse Advice Line is also available 24/7! Call 1-800-TRICARE (1-800-874- 2273) and select option 1 to connect to the Nurse Advice Line.

 
FINANCIALdo I have access to funds for the next ________ days?
Is my bank account a joint account with my abuser?
If ‘Yes’ then consider establishing an independent, separate savings/checking account.

 

Do I have family or friends that could provide temporary financial assistance?

 

Consider accessing local food banks to reduce impact on available funds. 
 

Safety planning is most effective when discussed with a victim advocate or informed professional resource.  When in a safe location, please contact your local Fleet and Family Support Center to request access to a Family Advocacy Program professional that will help to guide you further in your safety planning goals.

 

Fleet and Family Support Center Scheduling Appointment Line:  1-866-854-0638
 
For more detailed safety planning ideas please download and save a copy of the following fillable Safety Planning Template.  Remember – computer use can be monitored and you are encouraged to ensure that any use of this form is kept safe and protected from your abuser.  
 
This fillable SAFETY PLANNING TEMPLATE can assist you in your preparations.

 


Additional information and support is available through the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.

 
If you, or someone you know, needs help, support is available 24/7. Service members and their families can call Military OneSource at 1-800-342-9647, or chat at militaryonesource.mil.
 
Service members, Veterans, and their loved ones can also call the Military and Veterans Crisis Line at 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1, chat at veteranscrisisline.net, or text to 838255. 
 
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available to anyone by calling 1-800-273-8255.

Child Abuse

Child abuse consists of any act that endangers or impairs a child’s physical or emotional health and development. Child physical abuse includes any damage done to a child which cannot be reasonably explained and which is often represented by an injury or series of injuries appearing to be non-accidental in nature. Service members are required to report any incident of child abuse to the command.

Forms of Child Abuse

Physical Abuse

Any act that causes non-accidental injury to a child. This includes abuse such as hitting, kicking, slapping, shaking, burning, pinching, hair pulling, biting, choking, throwing, shoving, whipping, and paddling.

Sexual Abuse

Any sexual act between an adult and child. This includes fondling, penetration, intercourse, exploitation, pornography, exhibitionism, child prostitution, group sex, oral sex, or forced observation of sexual acts.

Neglect

Failure to provide for a child’s physical needs and safety. This includes lack of supervision, inappropriate housing or shelter, inadequate provision of food and water, inappropriate clothing for season or weather, abandonment, denial of medical care and inadequate hygiene.

Emotional Abuse

Any attitude or behavior which interferes with a child’s mental health or social development. This includes yelling, screaming, name-calling, shaming, negative comparisons to others, telling them they are “bad, no good, worthless” or “a mistake.” It also includes the failure to provide the affection and support necessary for the development of a child’s emotional, social, physical and intellectual well-being. This includes ignoring, lack of appropriate physical affection (hugs), not saying “I love you,” withdrawal of attention, lack of praise and lack of positive reinforcement.

Child abuse must be reported to keep our children safe. There is no option for restricted reporting for incidents of child abuse or neglect.

Reporting Options

  • Child Protective Services - Reporting/Intake: 1-800-762-4902
  • Reporting After Hours: 1-800-562-5624
  • Family Advocacy Program: 1-866-854-0638

Family Advocacy Program

The Family Advocacy Program (FAP) is designed to support operational readiness by addressing prevention, education, identification, intervention, treatment and the reporting of suspected child abuse/neglect and spouse/partner abuse.

The Fleet & Family Support Center is staffed with highly qualified, licensed counselors who provide assessment, case management and treatment for active duty service members and beneficiaries who are involved in a domestic or child abuse incident. Each of the counselors holds a masters or doctorate degree in Social Work, Marriage and Family Therapy, or Psychology. They are fully credentialed and know how to assist you!

The Family Advocacy Program requires staff to assess all reported incidents of suspected or known maltreatment. The FAP process includes in-person interviews with the service member, spouse/partner and children. The Commanding Officer of the service member is notified when an allegation has been reported to FAP that involves the service member and/or family members. Depending on the allegation, the appropriate state’s child protection agency and/or appropriate law enforcement agency may be contacted (i.e. Naval Criminal Investigative Services (NCIS), local Police or Sheriff). Because FAP staff may make these and other disclosures in furtherance of the Family Advocacy Program, communications made to FAP staff may not be privileged under Military Rule of Evidence 513 or similar provisions.

In accordance with DOD guidance, all cases that meet reasonable suspicion for domestic abuse and/or child maltreatment will be reviewed at the Incident Determination Committee (IDC) and the Clinical Case Staffing Meeting (CCSM).

  • The IDC membership consists of: Installation Executive Officer, Installation Command Master Chief, Naval Criminal Investigative Services, Staff Judge Advocate, Base Security, Family Advocacy Representative, and sponsor’s Commanding Officer. Although you may not attend the IDC meeting, you will receive notification seven days in advance of the meeting date. The IDC reviews all relevant information regarding the allegations and makes an administrative determination whether abuse/neglect occurred. The results of the IDC are reported to the FAP Central Registry for data collection and tracking of cases. You will be informed of the IDC’s findings and your right to request a review of the findings if certain conditions exist.
  • During the CCSM, clinical providers review all relevant case information to develop interventions/treatment recommendations to meet the specific needs of each service member and/or family members. A FLAG may be assigned to insure that service members due to receive permanent change of station (PCS) orders are assigned in areas where appropriate treatment services are available. The CCSM periodically reviews cases until such time that: treatment recommendations are completed; level of risk has decreased; case is closed due to non-compliance.

The IDC determination, CCSM treatment recommendations, administrative recommendations and “flagging” information is provided to the service member’s Commanding Officer. The victim and/or offender may contact the FAP Case Manager directly to obtain results of the IDC and CCSM.

Treatment Options

The Fleet & Family Support Center provides supportive counseling for clients struggling with issues related to abuse or traumatic events.  Individual and group counseling can make a significant impact and help clients learn coping skills, resilience, suicide prevention strategies, and violence prevention.  
 
The Fleet and Family Support Center Counselors are highly qualified, state licensed clinicians who have had extensive experience working with adults, children, and families through a wide range of issues and concerns.  
 
For all treatment options – please discuss your treatment recommendations with your case manager or call 1-866-854-0638 for more information. 
 

INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING 

Individual counseling services are available for active duty service members and/or their dependents based on needs and types of services recommended.  Please call for information on availability for an intake or a referral to local resources.  
 

GROUP TREATMENT

The Fleet & Family Support Center offers treatment groups for both men and women who have demonstrated past problematic relationship patterns and intimate partner violence.  Participants in the group will learn to recognize the various forms of abuse, such as physical, sexual, economic, stalking, abuse of pets, and psychological (emotional).  Group interventions focus on accountability and responsibility for one’s own actions, healthy replacement behaviors as an alternative to relationship violence and/or control, and the enhancement of social-emotional relationship skills, such as communication of one’s own emotions/needs, effective listening, and constructive problem solving.  Group treatment sessions frequently examine situations of power and control, the cycle of violence, and risk factors that contribute to increased risk for domestic violence.  
 

POSITIVE PARENTING

The Positive Parenting series is a class for parents with children of all ages.  Parents learn techniques to avoid hassles such as fighting, eating, chores, motivation, homework, sharing and more. This fun and lively class will teach parents discipline techniques that will promote children’s:
 

Self-esteem

Responsibility
Problem-solving Skills
Self-discipline
 

HELPING CHILDREN WHO WITNESS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CLASS 

The Helping Children Who Witness DV class is a 2-hour class designed to help parents understand the impact of witnessing violence or high levels of emotional expression within the family home. The focus of this class is on the developmental stages of children, and how they process and internalize these themes of conflict in the family environment. The class also helps parents to take steps towards addressing their children's needs in a supportive and healing way.  
 

 

If you, or someone you know, needs help, support is available 24/7. Service members and their families can call Military OneSource at 1-800-342-9647, or chat at militaryonesource.mil.
 
Service members, Veterans, and their loved ones can also call the Military and Veterans Crisis Line at 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1, chat at veteranscrisisline.net, or text to 838255. 
 
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available to anyone by calling 1-800-273-8255.

Command Resources

Command Family Advocacy Representatives (CFAR) Training

Newly appointed CFARs can receive training by calling the Fleet & Family Support Center to set up their individual appointment with the Family Advocacy Representative. Training can include orientation to their position, as well as an overview of the Incident Determination Committee that will fulfill the requirements to vote.

Domestic Violence (DV)/Sexual Assault Prevention & Response (SAPR) Executive Leadership Training

COMNAVREGNWINST 1753.1A requires all newly appointment Commanding Officers, Executive Officers, Command Master Chiefs and Chiefs of the Boat to attend the DV/SAPR Executive Leadership training within 90 days of assuming their position. DV/SAPR Executive Leadership training will take place at the Fleet & Family Support Center - Gold (Bldg. 1099), from 8:30 am - Noon.

Please call our Centralized Scheduling line at 866-854-0638 to reserve your space.

Upcoming Trainings, Classes & Events

Wednesday, January 22, 2020

12:00PM

Spouse Indoc

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

Thursday, January 23, 2020

9:00AM

Positive Parenting

Fleet & Family Support Center (Gold)

9:00AM

Relationship Resources

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

5:00PM

Daddy Boot Camp-For Men Only

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

Monday, January 27, 2020

1:30PM

Anger Management (six-session class)

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

Thursday, January 30, 2020

9:00AM

Positive Parenting

Fleet & Family Support Center (Gold)

4:00PM

SUBMERGED

Admiral Boorda Teen Center

This event repeats Last Thursday
Every 1 month

Monday, February 3, 2020

1:30PM

Anger Management (six-session class)

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

Thursday, February 6, 2020

9:00AM

Stress Management: Four-session Class

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

9:00AM

Positive Parenting

Fleet & Family Support Center (Gold)

Monday, February 10, 2020

8:00AM

Unit Victim Advocate Refresher Training

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

1:30PM

Anger Management (six-session class)

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

Tuesday, February 11, 2020

8:00AM

Unit Victim Advocate Refresher Training

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

8:30AM

Domestic Violence (DV) and Sexual Assault (SA) Executive Leadership Training

Fleet & Family Support Center (Gold)

5:00PM

Relationship Resources

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

Wednesday, February 12, 2020

8:00AM

Unit Victim Advocate Refresher Training

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

Thursday, February 13, 2020

9:00AM

Stress Management: Four-session Class

Fleet & Family Support Center (Blue)

9:00AM

Positive Parenting

Fleet & Family Support Center (Gold)

Tuesday, February 18, 2020

10:00AM

EFMP 101 Overview

Thursday, February 20, 2020

9:00AM

Positive Parenting

Fleet & Family Support Center (Gold)